The discomfort of self-awareness(DW #811)
Oct 05, 2020
Self-awareness, as we have mentioned before, is the first step on the journey of self-growth. We cannot really deal with something we are not even aware of.
Here is how Don Miguel Ruiz puts it in The Four Agreements: "The first step toward personal freedom is awareness. We need to be aware that we are not free in order to be free. We need to be aware of what the problem is in order to solve the problem."
Self-awareness, however, is not a comfortable feeling, ESPECIALLY before we have had a chance to address and change what we have become aware of.
When we first become aware of our shortcomings, we can begin to feel despondent and hopeless. We may feel impatient with ourselves and wonder why we have still so much work to do on ourselves.
At times like this, we need to remind ourselves to
"Encourage yourself by remembering that any detection of negativity within you is a positive act, not a negative one.Awareness of your weakness and confusion makes you strong because conscious awareness is the bright light that destroys the darkness of negativity. Honest self-observation dissolves pains and pressures that formerly did their dreadful work in the darkness of unawareness. This is so important that I urge you to memorize and reflect upon the following summary: Detection of inner negativity is not a negative act, but a courageously positive act that makes you a new person."
Vernon Howard in The Power of Your Supermind
This is so powerful.
Before we shine the light of self-awareness on our shortcomings and personal challenges, it is not that they are not impacting us. Our shortcomings, ineffective thoughts and behaviours are doing "their dreadful work in the darkness of unawareness". So becoming aware, though uncomfortable is a big step in the right direction.
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